I only experienced this type of holiday one time and that was at Thanksgiving.
The best advice I can give is that I did not let it affect my attitude and my joy. Because you see we can't get into the "what about me?" syndrome. When we do it makes us extremly selfish and depressed which affects every member in the family household.
Not fair to do that to others that you love.
Real love does not hold anyone's emotions hostage. Nor does love hold any person hostage.
Love is freedom; love is action; love is powerful. Love is more than just saying that you love a person. Love is an action word, love is "to do". Putting other's needs and desires before your own.
Sow love and you will reap love, real love.