So sorry for your loss and that you're going through such a difficult time. I can understand you wanting to be with your family during the holidays. I am in a little bit of a different situation than you - I at least still get to see my family during the holidays, but may still have to work the majority of it and may not get to see all of my family and travel, depending on my work schedule, so I understand.
As Xmas said, do your normal routine and join in here. We always celebrate, as a family and we will make you feel right at home!
The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.
- Burton Hillis