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I spoke at a friend's funeral a couple of years ago and read this poem....it is one of my favorites....
Mine too; it sums it up perfectly
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Traditions are a part of the glue that holds us together. They are not necessary, but they sure are comforting. If you ever find yourself at a point where you have to start over, don’t leave your traditions behind. They bring a sense of continuum to our lives, and they bring comfort to our children. The pain, though, is when one of those children is missing; it is also hard when one of the adults is missing. And it doesn’t even have to be that someone is missing. If a situation is so changed, that, too, can have a devastating effect. The thing is, we (have to) go on, no matter what. When my son was diagnosed with leukemia the day before Christmas Eve in 2007, I thought I would die. But life did go on. I was so subdued at Christmas, that I could hardly listen to Christmas music. Then I found out that keeping up that tradition was what helped me get through the holidays. At that point, I felt like all I was doing was “getting through.” Previous to that in 1999, my daughter had a stroke at 22 years of age. As a result, my granddaughter was born with cerebral palsy and had just gotten out of the hospital before Christmas. Twenty-two years earlier, my husband at the time, decided he didn’t want to be married; and he left when my daughter was three days old. Even though it was the first devastating thing to happen to me as an adult, it was also the thing that made me stronger. At the time, I couldn’t see that. But I carried on, on behalf of my children. There was really nothing else I could do. Then this past Christmas, I realized that I had cancer. It was scary, indeed, but nothing compared with those events that involved my children. I wish I had words of wisdom to share, but I do not. It is easy to say that time heals all wounds, and it does; but it doesn’t feel like it when you are going through a situation and when your heart is breaking. I pray for energy and comfort for you and your family. You have received excellent suggestions on this site. Right now is hard, I know. Take care and do what is comforting for you. May your happy memories overshadow this sad time in your life.
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I'm so sorry to hear your news. I pray you and your family find strength over this hard time and have better days ahead.

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I am so sorry for you loss. I know right now, it's hard to even consider celebrating Christmas or any holiday. When it gets closer to Christmas, see how you feel, and do whatever you feel like doing. The important thing to remember is you'll be with your husband and other children, and even though someone will be missing, you'll still want to make the day as normal as possible.
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I am so sorry for your loss.

If you don't feel like having Christmas this year, and that is what is comfortable for you, then that is what is best. But, if you feel that some holiday festivities will help lift everyone up, then go ahead. But, don't feel obligated to celebrate this year; if you just don't feel it in your heart, it's okay.

If you want to honor your step-son, how about getting a star in his name? {www.starregistry.com} Or, maybe a remembrance ornament for your tree? Or, how about a small stocking for the tree/mantel and have everyone write a small note to place in there?

I know the upcoming holidays will be tough, but please remember that your MMC family is always here for you.

Sending prayers and peace to the hearts of you and yours.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Our hearts and ours prayers are extended out to you and your family!
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First, I want you to know that I'm praying for you and all of your family.

Since I got cancer almost five years ago, I've had to face the knowledge of my mortality in a whole different way than a person does in general. One of the things I talked to my family about was Christmas. They know how much the whole Christmas thing means to me. They share in that with me. (just not 365 days a year) I'm afraid they would feel much like you if I passed suddenly, especially if it was near Christmas.

I don't know if your step son feels this way or not. I can only share my feelings. I told my family that my greatest wish in that situation would be that they would keep on doing all the things we did when I was with them. It would make my transition time in the end so much more painful if I knew that the wonderful joy of Christmas was not being lived out by all of them anymore. My family all believe that we will celebrate together for eternity and that our time here is but a second in the vast ocean of eternity. I would wish that they could focus on the past memories, the present joy of the season and everything it stands for, and the future longing of being together again.

I will pray for peace for all of you in this very difficult situation.
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((((Sandy)))) I am so sorry to hear this! We will be without my brother this Christmas too. He passed away of a heart attack in March. We are a very close family & this is going to be a tough Christmas without him, as your Christmas will be hard too! But we must carry on! They would want us too! I will be keeping you & your family in my thoughts & prayers. I am so sorry for your loss!
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So beautifully worded!


Originally Posted by Storeytime View Post
First, I want you to know that I'm praying for you and all of your family.

Since I got cancer almost five years ago, I've had to face the knowledge of my mortality in a whole different way than a person does in general. One of the things I talked to my family about was Christmas. They know how much the whole Christmas thing means to me. They share in that with me. (just not 365 days a year) I'm afraid they would feel much like you if I passed suddenly, especially if it was near Christmas.

I don't know if your step son feels this way or not. I can only share my feelings. I told my family that my greatest wish in that situation would be that they would keep on doing all the things we did when I was with them. It would make my transition time in the end so much more painful if I knew that the wonderful joy of Christmas was not being lived out by all of them anymore. My family all believe that we will celebrate together for eternity and that our time here is but a second in the vast ocean of eternity. I would wish that they could focus on the past memories, the present joy of the season and everything it stands for, and the future longing of being together again.

I will pray for peace for all of you in this very difficult situation.
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