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Old 10-19-2012, 11:41 AM
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I have not seen this thread and read every post, I am so sorry for your lost, I wish I could do more then just tell you but I feel just like Head Elf, I have started and re-wrote this post like 6 times, nothing seems to be right. I usually do not post in public forums my private life but I too had a similar loss if you need anything please let me know, PM me anytime. My heart goes out to you all.
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i am so sorry sgrover. i will be praying for you & your family.
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I'm sorry for your loss. Remember that your stepson would want your Christmas to be as happy and joyful as possible despite the pain that your family is surely feeling.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. hugs & love to you & yours.
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I have been thinking of you, Sgrover. How are things with you now? Here's hoping that you become stronger emotionally every day!
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We're hanging in there. We have a meeting set up next week with our pastor for some grief counseling. He and his wife lost a son too, not sure how many years ago, it was before he came to our church, so he'll know firsthand what we're going through. I'm working on my Christmas letter, won't be that long before I need to send it out. I'm still tweeking it, but think I have it down. Our daughter, who is 13, wrote some poems shortly after her brother died, and decided to recite them for Forensics in school this year. Her first meet was last night. She did awesome! We are so proud of her. Writing and reciting them is therapy for her, and for us too, really. I copied her notes and typed them up to send to family/friends that won't be able to see her in person. I'll post them here so you all can read them too. Remember - written by a 13 year old!
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I just don’t Understand

The baby sleeps but yet she cries, I just don’t understand
The bird so young but yet it flies, I just don’t understand
The product is terrible but yet he buys, I just don’t understand
The girl is mad yet says “Hey guys!”, I just don’t understand
He talked so sweet but yet he lied, I just don’t understand
They said “You can’t do it”, but yet he tries, I just don’t understand
He was so young but yet he died, I just don’t understand
One minute he was there and the next he was gone, I just don’t understand
He’s in a better place but yet we cry, I just don’t understand
But the love, and comfort from family and friends, now that I understand



I Miss the Ways

I miss the way you’d hug me
I miss the way you’d eat all of my hot pockets
I miss the way you’d take my laptop
I miss the way you’d smell like cigarettes and cologne
I miss the way you’d smile at the jokes I’d tell
I miss your stupid goober laugh
I miss your weird catch phrases
I miss the way you’d act all nervous when your girlfriend came over
I miss the way you’d always forget the password to the computer
I miss hearing your voice every day
I miss hearing your text tone on your phone go off every 2 minutes
I miss you pacing around the house every time someone called
I miss you even when you’d barge in the house, storm down stairs, grab 3 pizzas, storm back upstairs, and leave.
But most of all…I miss you.


The Experience

The worst words I could possibly hear
Now came pounding through my ear
The words of “life support” and “there is no hope”
From those words I began to slope
Into my knees I began to cry
Looking up and asking God “why?”
We went into his room, and there he lie
I saw him, went out of the room, and began to cry,
I banged my head against a wall
I felt so weak that I could barely crawl
But I went back into the room to see,
My whole family, crying with me.
He was put into this new room
But not knowing that I would see him soon,
Sat on the ground and shed many tears.
Then I told my mom all of my fears.
What if this? What if that?
Then, I got a call from my brother Pat
He was on his way with the rest of the family too.
I looked down the hall to see my brother being rolled through.
We went in his new room and again there he lie
But I never, EVER thought I would see my Grandpa cry
I walked all around the room and then sat down in a chair.
I kissed him on the forehead and combed my fingers through his hair
I looked out of the glass door and all that I see
Is not 5, no not 10, but All his friends looking back at me
I opened the door and gave each of them a hug
I looked at their faces and it gave my heart a tug.
They all held his hand and said their good-byes
They all went in the hall, sat down, and began to cry
But the Doctor needed my Dad’s affirmation
Then she pulled out some papers about organ donation
My Dad signed the papers, and this made me proud
“My brother can save people”, it made my heart sing loud
But then, the next thing I notice, he went into the ground.
My brother so young, 20 years to be exact
He had a job, had a girlfriend, his life was all intact
He was the happy-go-lucky big brother of mine
But it was God’s will, it was just his time
Spencer William the cape less crusader
Who saved 4 people from dying later
I know I read things about him over and over
About this man that they call “Super Grover”
Now my time is up and I must go,
But, Rest in Peace Big Bro.
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sgrover, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine having to go through something like that. We suffered the loss of our family matriarch, my Grandmother in the Spring, she passed away the same day that I started my chemotherapy. I know that Christmas will be much different without her. However, having said that, I will embrace and hold dear to my heart those that will surround me this Christmas and keep my Grandma in my heart.

I hope your meeting tonight is good therapy.
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sgrover, those poems are so beautiful.

my heart goes out to all of your family, and of course, to you. so many people must have been effected by the loss. it's just heartbreaking. try to take comfort in the fact that you will all be together again one day.
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sgrover - I am new here, so I don't "know" anyone yet...but I read your story, and the beautiful poems by your daughter that you shared, and I am in tears. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child, but my heart goes out to you. I wanted to thank you for sharing, and tell you that you and your family are in my prayers, and will be throughout the holiday season. ((huggs))
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