Christmas Spirit -- You are doing A LOT of great things! I am so happy to hear that you are spending lots of time with your friends. I understand why your mom wants to spend a lot of time with you - you are smart and fun! I am sure she is very very proud of you! Maybe you can telephone her - when you are at your friends house. Give her a call - tell her what you are doing - if it is homework, tell her what subject - like reading for history or something. And ask her what she is doing. Tell her you'll call her again in an hour and see how things went.
That way you can be with your friends, and still giving your mom support. Be sure to tell her you love her often - more than once a day. (Your pop too. Don't make it up if you are not feeling it, though.)
Maybe your mom can find some online support groups. No matter how old we are, they are helpful for us all. I feel very lucky that you are in this group, with us!
I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I want to tell you that from I have seen and heard from you on here I think you are handling this in a very mature manner. Be proud of yourself for handling and dealing with your situation like you are. It may seem like a lot all at once but at the end you can look back and said YES I survived it. Yes I handled that the best I could and still came out OK! That more then alot of adults can say. Just remember to take things one day at a time and keep talking to your friends, mom and other trusted adults. HUGS going your way!!!!
I agree with what Minta said. You are amazing to be handling this in such a mature manner. I've found that when it looks like there's a mountain in front of us, that there will be a way to get through, around, or over it that we can't see at the moment. Just hang in there and know that a lot of good people are praying for you and thinking about you. You and your family will get through all this and somehow, you will be better for having learned how to get through it. My prayers are with you.
__________________ "Unless we make Christmas an occasion to share our blessings, all the snow in Alaska won't make it 'white'." -- Bing Crosby
Christmas Spirit, I'm so sorry to hear of the trials your family is going through. Sometimes we don't understand why bad things happen to good people, but they do. Just remember, "that which does not kill us, only makes us stronger", I'm sure you and your family will come through this, and be stronger and closer because of it. God Bless.
((HUGS AND PRAYERS FOR YOUR FAMILY CHRISTMAS SPIRIT))
Be there for each other as much as you can. You'll be stronger as a family for it in the end. My family is going through something similar. I imagine my 14 year old has many of the same feelings and fears as you. But we endure, and with love and faith we make it through to the other side.