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So, things are slightly better with my parents for now. We talk regularly without a debate and my Mom is trying to lighten up on me.

However, now my Grandmother (my mom's mom) has cut me off, along with my aunt and two cousins. Really? I can't seem to catch a break! Why do people have to be so extreme?

My parents want me to come visit in November because I haven't been home in two years. I want to go, mainly to see my sick Grandfather, but I'm nervous. I know people are talking about me and I know that some will give me the cold shoulder. It's a very uncomfortable situation. I've been debating if I should even go back...ever. I know that seems drastic, but if you knew my family, you would understand.

So, should I take a chance and go home and face the drama? Or should I just cut my losses and stay put?
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oh my...this is a hard decision to make....I guess I would go....just to avoid to feel guilty once Your grandfather has passed maybe....You should not feel guilty, if You dont go...but usually thatīs what good hearted people too....maybe You try it once more....and if it doesnīt work...then okay....remember....when u come back from this trip....You will have december and the season to cheer u up.........i hope i could make clear what i was trying to say
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So, things are slightly better with my parents for now. We talk regularly without a debate and my Mom is trying to lighten up on me.

However, now my Grandmother (my mom's mom) has cut me off, along with my aunt and two cousins. Really? I can't seem to catch a break! Why do people have to be so extreme?

My parents want me to come visit in November because I haven't been home in two years. I want to go, mainly to see my sick Grandfather, but I'm nervous. I know people are talking about me and I know that some will give me the cold shoulder. It's a very uncomfortable situation. I've been debating if I should even go back...ever. I know that seems drastic, but if you knew my family, you would understand.

So, should I take a chance and go home and face the drama? Or should I just cut my losses and stay put?
Wow, Advice is so hard to give, especially if you yourself, who is giving the advice, has not experienced your current situation for themselves. You must be very careful... people (especially family) can be very extreme about things and it has led to some very terrible situations (as you hear in the news)... Following your heart is a good thing but it can make you do some things that you may regret later on. Use your brain; If your brain is sending you signals not to go, then there must be a reason for that.

It is a wonderful thing that we have here in the great country of ours - Freedom... With that freedom, it allows us to be able to practice, believe and live within our lives everyday, whatever form of religion or personal beliefs that we may choose. Be careful, because some people that come here to this country now a days, do not tollerate any form of beliefs other then what they have been brought up to believe from their own country and or family. If you know ahead that there may be trouble, stay away for your childrens sake, as long as you have the love for them and your family, then look ahead to the future with your beliefs and not the past with your distant family's beliefs.

Your decision is a tough one becuase it not only effects you, but your husband and children as well; my advice is for you to look ahead and not behind.
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I would say go see your family, after all they are your family, if they chose to ignore you or cut you out of their lives then that will be their choice not yours. You are the one that went to them as per their invite to you, if they cannot put aside their difference's towards you with regards to Christmas. Then you will always be able to say they were the ones to ignore you they turned you away, and you will never wonder what if, I turned up what would they have said.
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My advice would be first to pray about it. Then know that you do not walk alone and as the Word says, "you can do all things through Christ which strengthens you" Another words you can do it if you believe you can for then the anointing steps in when we are weak and strengthens us to move on.
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Closest we had was a family member who did not believe in Santa and did not want anything to do with Santa. They hosted Christmas for a while and then we had it at our house. My mother got Santa table cloth, napkins, plates and had all our Santas on display. LOL.
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