I just read this and as I am not a member I cannot comment on that thread. I feel for the family. But, I also feel for the children. If they are tweens I am thinking the ages of 11 - 13. I am not saying that exempts them for wrong or right; and the parents may not just be reaching out for a handout, maybe they truly miss the their friends. I think a family gift would be nice or the charitable one, something like the ASPCA or to a local soup kitchen. I know their children are hurt by the other kids act, but by giving nothing what is that teaching your kids, that if someone wrongs you, cut them off? I don't think that is a good message, but I don't want my kids also thinking it is OK to be walked all over either. By extending a gift for the family, sets a great example for their own children. It also sets the stage for a possible reconciliation by the children. Maybe the other kids involved may be touched by the thoughtfulness. It is a hard situation to be in, but this is also a great learning experience too. By setting the example their kids see that it is much more rewarding and on the road to life can now recognize that sometimes people do not always stay in our lives but you can still take the joy of the past friendship and build new ones that will grow and prosper. By keeping an open mind and heart we grow, by shutting down and getting angry or living in our disappointment we do not see the other roads available to us. Maybe these children weren't meant to stay friends, but no need to let the hurt encompass us, learn, take the joy, and grow from it. I am not saying the kids should feel their grief, it is tough at that age, the hurt feels like it is all consuming. I feel for your family and I hope they all come thru this.
“Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.” Anonymous (thank you Auntie for my pix)