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Most in my family do not celebrate Christmas or any of the holidays due to religous beliefs, and some have even cut ties with me because I do. I'm not even able to talk about it or show my parents pictures of my children on christmas morning because they oppose it so strongly. Has anyone here faced a similar situation with family members? And do you have any advice on dealing with it?
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I have a brother who will not celebrate Christmas. We respect that and do not send him gifts or cards. He lives across the country so family Christmas parties are not an issue.
I would suggest the same for you, simply do not talk about it with them. Enjoy your celebrations but do not try to include them. Find other things you have in common and can have fun with. Summer BBQ's, dinners, or just fun visits with the kids and grandparents.
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It's important to realize that not everyone thinks and feels about Christmas the way that we do. Most of my family enjoys Christmas but none of them love in the way that I do. They think I'm nuts for thinking and talking about it year round. I suggest being thoughtful and respectful of thier thoughts and feelings but don't let how they feel impact and diminish how you feel about Christmas. Continue to enjoy it. Live and let live.
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wow I am sorry for that situation...I am glad I am not in a situation like this...because I wouldn´t know how to deal wit it....horrible......I am sorry about it
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Most in my family do not celebrate Christmas or any of the holidays due to religous beliefs, and some have even cut ties with me because I do. I'm not even able to talk about it or show my parents pictures of my children on christmas morning because they oppose it so strongly. Has anyone here faced a similar situation with family members? And do you have any advice on dealing with it?
That's terrible.. and so sad!
For you, for your kids and for your family.

But, what can you do?
I would continue to enjoy Christmas.
If they don't like it, it's their problem.
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Thanks everyone. Nothing or no one will ever make me feel bad about taking part in such a beautiful holiday.

A couple of days ago I "liked" My Merry Christmas on FB and this morning while on the phone with my Mom she brought it up. Saying how wrong it was to like something like that.

I'm amazed at how disrepectful people can be. I respect people's beliefs and how they choose to live their life. I expect the same. And if I don't agree with their choice, I simply keep it to myself. We all have freedom of choice. Period. It's sad when my own parents raised me to believe that and now that I've chosen a different path, they refuse to accept or support it.

Oh well, on a happier note, the weather is beautiful here in South Texas and I'm taking my kiddos swimming this afternoon.
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Thanks everyone. Nothing or no one will ever make me feel bad about taking part in such a beautiful holiday.

A couple of days ago I "liked" My Merry Christmas on FB and this morning while on the phone with my Mom she brought it up. Saying how wrong it was to like something like that.

I'm amazed at how disrepectful people can be. I respect people's beliefs and how they choose to live their life. I expect the same. And if I don't agree with their choice, I simply keep it to myself. We all have freedom of choice. Period. It's sad when my own parents raised me to believe that and now that I've chosen a different path, they refuse to accept or support it.

Oh well, on a happier note, the weather is beautiful here in South Texas and I'm taking my kiddos swimming this afternoon.
If your mom tries bringing up your love for Christmas or anything that you "like" on Facebook that is related to Christmas, I would ignore her from now on and change the conversation to something else. I would mention to her that you would like her to be respectful towards you and your beliefs and you will do the same for her. As others have mentioned, go about your typical family activities but refrain from any mention of Christmas. If it is bothering them so much that they feel the need to bring it up at some point, I would again just ignore it and move on to not cause a disagreement or argument.

You know you have everyone here who loves Christmas just as much as you do! Most people don't understand how we can be so happy and excited for it all year round, so it's nice to be able to come here and share the same view.

As for family cutting ties with you, I think that is very dramatic on their part. It's not like you are trying to shove it in their face or make them celebrate Christmas and every aspect of it. I would just be happy and thankful that you can celebrate it with your kids. You still can enjoy the Christmas magic year-round! :]
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I agree with everyone else here
Its sad that they can the part of the kids christmas but its there loss
Guess you cant make people believe in something if they dont want to. but at the same time they should respect you and you beliefs
Your there daughter does love not come into it ??
But as someone said on here. live and let live. i wood let them celebrate it there way or not celebrate as the cast may be and you do it your way..
One thing god give us is a freedom of choice.. to do or not to do .. and we all have the same choice. you choose to love christmas the choose not to..
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Thanks everyone. Nothing or no one will ever make me feel bad about taking part in such a beautiful holiday.

A couple of days ago I "liked" My Merry Christmas on FB and this morning while on the phone with my Mom she brought it up. Saying how wrong it was to like something like that.

I'm amazed at how disrepectful people can be. I respect people's beliefs and how they choose to live their life. I expect the same. And if I don't agree with their choice, I simply keep it to myself. We all have freedom of choice. Period. It's sad when my own parents raised me to believe that and now that I've chosen a different path, they refuse to accept or support it.

Oh well, on a happier note, the weather is beautiful here in South Texas and I'm taking my kiddos swimming this afternoon.
hey there doll! just a few questions; do your rents live in your town? do you have other family or close friends who love Christmas as you do?
i'm sorry to disagree w/ your mother but loving Christmas is not "WRONG"!! the reason for my questions is #1 if your rents don't live in your town, i see how it would be easier to have your own celebrations & beliefs w/out your rents guilting you about them. as rents, sometimes it makes it easier to voice their opinions loudly & not have repercussions. sad but true! #2 i was wondering if you have others to be w/ during special times like Christmas since your rents do not take part.
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My parents live in Arkansas and I live in Texas, about 10 hours apart. Granted, it is easier because they don't visit during the holidays. They make a point to stay away during that time, which I'm rather thankful for.

However, it doesn't stop them from constantly bringing it up. I NEVER bring up the subject of holidays, religion or anything of that nature simply because I know how the conversation will end. My Mom is a very persistent women, she truely believes I will one day change my ways, and stop celebrating holidays.

And yes, we thankfully have a wonderful circle of friends and a hand full of family members that we share a love of Christmas with. My husband's parents are like mine, they do not observe holidays either. But we do have a few extended family members that we get together with, including my brother-in-law and his wife and kids.

Most importantly, we have eachother. And as long as I have my husband and my two amazing kids, I'll be a happy woman.
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