That's amazing how the time flies by when your just chatting away....:-D
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Good Morning, Weekend Eve Wonders.
How can we be so close to the end of yet another week?
Do you realize we are half way through August already?
That means September is scarcely half a month away and it's in September that "Christmas Blossoms 2013" will be launched.
(I don't know about you, but the year seems to be slipping away a bit too fast!)
Speaking of that, just look at this, will you!
Days to the Season: 89
Days to Christmas Day: 131
Now under a week away from the next Milestone of the rolling year, the 2/3 marker to Christmas Day.
(No! Too soon. Much too soon!)
Wow-wee!
It was almost chilly yesterday as our lower temps and humidity continue to spoil us.
(Hey! Who needs Fall, anyway?)
Right now, we have started at a right crisp 62 degrees.
Have a Fabulous Friday, Friends.
And I hope and trust that your Weekend will begin in style this afternoon!
How can we be so close to the end of yet another week?
Do you realize we are half way through August already?
That means September is scarcely half a month away and it's in September that "Christmas Blossoms 2013" will be launched.
(I don't know about you, but the year seems to be slipping away a bit too fast!)
Speaking of that, just look at this, will you!
Days to the Season: 89
Days to Christmas Day: 131
Now under a week away from the next Milestone of the rolling year, the 2/3 marker to Christmas Day.
(No! Too soon. Much too soon!)
Wow-wee!
It was almost chilly yesterday as our lower temps and humidity continue to spoil us.
(Hey! Who needs Fall, anyway?)
Right now, we have started at a right crisp 62 degrees.
Have a Fabulous Friday, Friends.
And I hope and trust that your Weekend will begin in style this afternoon!
Morning folks! In the past here I've tried very hard to be here and be apart of the conversation but lately, I've just haven't felt much like being very chatty. Actually, I've been pretty sad and depressed for the past few weeks and It's really tearing me apart on the inside and my family on the outside.
My son (20) moved out the other week against my wifes and my wishes, to move in with his girlfriend of 6 months (21/22). It didn't go over very well and I am really struggling with this. I have always raised my kids to be close to us and to stay with us for a long while, untill they were stable in life. He's not, he gets 10 cents in his pocket and he wants to spend it...
His girlfriend is a spoiled little daddys girl (that my wife, my in-laws and I, do not like at all) and on top of it, her daddy buys her everthing she wants (he's a retired Lawyer and had his own law firm) and right now my son is living there at her townhouse for free, on his dime, sponging off of him and I'm peeved, beyond all means about this whole thing.
I love him still, I am upset at him, I want him back home, I loathe his girlfriend, but yet I'm not supposed to push him further away by lashing out for his actions....My wife keeps telling me to back off and it will play itself out but I haven't. I just don't want to let go and I am starting to drive her and my daughter bonkers with this whole thing, because I want to also punish him for hurting and not listening to us. Am I wrong for feeling that way????
I don't know really how to process all of this and I need some advice; I feel like a part of me has been torn away... :sad: Thanks~
My son (20) moved out the other week against my wifes and my wishes, to move in with his girlfriend of 6 months (21/22). It didn't go over very well and I am really struggling with this. I have always raised my kids to be close to us and to stay with us for a long while, untill they were stable in life. He's not, he gets 10 cents in his pocket and he wants to spend it...
His girlfriend is a spoiled little daddys girl (that my wife, my in-laws and I, do not like at all) and on top of it, her daddy buys her everthing she wants (he's a retired Lawyer and had his own law firm) and right now my son is living there at her townhouse for free, on his dime, sponging off of him and I'm peeved, beyond all means about this whole thing.
I love him still, I am upset at him, I want him back home, I loathe his girlfriend, but yet I'm not supposed to push him further away by lashing out for his actions....My wife keeps telling me to back off and it will play itself out but I haven't. I just don't want to let go and I am starting to drive her and my daughter bonkers with this whole thing, because I want to also punish him for hurting and not listening to us. Am I wrong for feeling that way????
I don't know really how to process all of this and I need some advice; I feel like a part of me has been torn away... :sad: Thanks~
Thinking of you, friend. That's a tough one. Your son knows how you feel, right? If you've said your peace, I would just be there for him, at a distance. Hopefully he sees what you see sooner rather than later, and learns from it. I wish I had better advice. Sorry this is so hard on you. Sending you lots of support & strength!!
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unfortunately this happens to a lot of families, my parents went through it with my brother. Never easy solutions.
I asked mom and she says to get support as soon as possible and do not blame yourself. They also went through all these feelings but it was the support of others that saw them through it. (my brother was on drugs, ran away from home at age 17, lived with his now wife, stole cars etc.)
She suggests this website for some great advice
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/par...nges/teen_rebellion/loving_your_prodigal.aspx
(((((HUGS)))))
By the way, He has now been married for 35 years, they have 4 kids and 7 grand children and he has driven truck for 30 of those years owning his own rig.
Praying for you. My brother in law went through a similar time when he made very poor decisions against his parents wishes, and yes it was over a girl. So many times the poor choices we make as guys involve a girl...not saying its the girl's fault but saying we don't always use our brains!
Anyway, his parents made how they felt known but continued to be there for him if he needed them. Of course the relationship with the girl fell apart, he was embarrassed but the important thing is he knew where home was to come back to those who truly love him. Today he is married to a wonderful lady and has a precious son and is a leader in his church!
My advice for what it's worth is to pray, show him unconditional love but stick to your values and in the end, the lessons and love you show him will win. Praying for you all!
Good morning friends! Well, I have been offered a job at a state agency and have been praying about it. It's not a huge raise in pay but there are a lot more chances to advance, something my current position does not have. I am accepting it. It is bittersweet as I truly like where I work and love the people. But there is just nowhere for me to go in the job. It will be hard to give my notice today but I know it's time.
Thanks for all the prayers!
Snowflake, happy anniversary! Hope y'all can celebrate!
Hope you all have a great day!
Thanks for all the prayers!
Snowflake, happy anniversary! Hope y'all can celebrate!
Hope you all have a great day!
Congratulations, Ryan!! I am so happy for you!!
((Hugs))
I will keep you in my prayers, friend. Good luck today =]
Thanks for the anniversary wishes, too!
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No you are not wrong for feeling that way, I agree with your wife though. You have raised him the best you could but he is his own man now. You have to let him make his own decisions and let him learn from his own actions.
My sister ran away when she turned 18 to be with her boyfriend because my mom tried to forbid her from seeing him. It tore our family apart for years because of things that were said and done. It happened again to certain extent when my other sister decided that she was going to move to seattle with her boyfriend that none of us liked.
I don't want to see you have to go through all of that. So like Ryan said, make sure he knows how you feel but continue to be there for him. I know you may be mad be don't do something that will push him away. You will regret that even more in the long run.
Praying for you.
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Congratulations!!!!!!!!!! I hope you love the new job and the people that you will be working with!!!
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Good Morning MMC!!!!! The warmer weather is making a come back starting today. It looks like we will top out around 80 this afternoon. Not much going on here today. Just a few errands to run. I hope everyone is having a GREAT DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Snowflake- Happy Anniversary, my friend!!!!!!!!!! Wishing you and that wonderful hubby of your's all of the best!!!
Snowflake- Happy Anniversary, my friend!!!!!!!!!! Wishing you and that wonderful hubby of your's all of the best!!!
Exciting times! I envy you, Coach. I wish I could go back to those days!
That's a tough spot to be in. I did something similar in my youth, and I'm still ashamed of myself. I wasn't living off of her dad, but I married the wrong girl waaay before I was mature enough to recognize that she was the wrong girl. My parents tried to help me see it, but I was determined. Lesson learned, but it was a difficult couple of years for my family, and, for me, a difficult realization that she wasn't what I thought she was. Thank the Lord for Nancy!
Unless he's in a dangerous situation, I don't think you'll be able to do anything to convince him. I know I didn't want to hear any of it at the time. Just make sure he knows you guys love him and want the best for him.
Good luck, my friend.
I started to write a novel on a certain disfunctional family I am very close to, but it's best not to air dirty laundry over the internet!
Here's what I would suggest: love him, pray for him, don't nag him, but don't let him come back home when/if it doesn't work out. I know we all needed help starting out, but I think tough love would go a long way too for the person's maturing process.
Bless.
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We're eager to meet her too! :???:
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I'm not qualified to speak on this (not having children), but here's what I think. Eventually his actions with have their own consequences (and therefore their own punishments), but it looks like he will have to learn that the hard way. Try to let it go and make sure he knows he can come back to you if and when it all blows up. It's so hard to be in a situation you can't resolve, but yet have to bear the frustration.
Wish you much success, Ryan. In time you may enjoy the new workplace and people as much as the old one.
Wonderful, so exciting :-D
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