I talked with my reconstruction doctor, and he said, "No, no, no!" A nurse at the pre-op site said that if anyone gave out info with written consent could be fined and maybe even lose his or her job! She said they would not even give out info to my husband!
This is very true! It's hard as a nurse, when a patient's family member, even wants to know something, but sometimes there is things we just can't tell them.