I was in a similar situation this season, Sheila. Although no where near as bad as cancer. I had to make the toughest decision I've ever had to make in my 43 years of life. I admitted my daughter into the hospital for attempted suicide. Granted it was a call for attention, but still hard to do. This was right before Thanksgiving and needless to say, I didn't eat for 3 days, I was so upset. I was in an all time low and everyone around me knew something was up because I wasn't in my normal Christmas mood. My wife, bless her heart, did all she could to get me to come around and eventually I did. I got better when my daughter came home, although still not completely back to my normal Christmas self. Then my brother, who lives in TN, did something that really upset me. I had started a tradition with my mother, who passed away a year and a half ago, in that I would get her at least 1 Christmas village house every year for Christmas, sometimes more. Well, when she died, I told my brother that he could have her cribbage board (which we would "fight" over when she was alive as to who would get it, it was all in fun) because I had other things that meant a lot to me, being her Christmas things, especially the village, which I got her about 80% of the village. I had taken what I had room for (the pieces that started it all, which is the main pieces I really wanted.) Well, on FB one day I see he had posted pictures of the village pieces, some I hadn't had room for but still would have liked. He didn't talk to me at all about taking them when he was up for my and my niece's weddings. So that put me in a downward spiral again. Yet again, God bless my wife, she did her best to cheer me up. She talked with my sister and between those two and the children, we stared increasing the village we have.
It sounds like you are blessed, like I am, with a spouse and at least one family member that love you so much that they delve into the Christmas Craziness we live in every day to cheer you up and bring at least a little of our Christmas normalcy back to us.
I also have to state that MMC and working on my hours for Tracking Santa also helped me not spiral down into the dark hole that was threatening to help me. I thank the Lord every day for this community and everyone in it. This is a very special community and I am thankful and humbled to be a part of it. I just hope I can give back as much as everyone here has given me.
Stay strong, Sheila, you've got this beat! I believe it with every fiber of my being.